I've only just heard about the concept of Polyamoury. On many levels, I resonate with the idea. I really do believe, after exploring a situation with a two of good male friends, that you need to truly love each person in the V. There needs to complete Truth and Integrity. Any withhold of intent, will cause a blockage in communication which causes a breakdown in the relationship.
The openness I have allowed my men has really freaked out the one. His marriage of nine years broke down because he explored a kiss with another woman.
The only flaw in this situation is when the people see the situation as a sex fest and get greedy. There goes Integrity.
The inclusion of a new person too soon after someone leaves the V, can also be difficult if not handled properly.
In fact, I’m not even that convinced that what I’ve explored is true Polyamoury. The men involved in my V are unclear in understanding the wholeness of the concept; and I am too new at it to be fulfilled.
I really would love at some stage to experience true Polyamoury and reap the benefits of a fulfilling relationship with two authentic Polyamourists.
Michelle 15-03-2007