Hi all
Just found this after wanting to do some more research, having recently discovered Polyamoury, and wanted to share my story. I've never been able to be monogamous – I form intimate relationships easily and find it very hard to “pigeon-hole” my feelings to one person. So when a friend introduced me to the concept I felt as if I'd come home – I'm not alone in feeling “trapped” by conventional monogamy.

Recently my best male friend has become my boyfriend/partner/significant other after 6 years of wanting – it's amazing. My husband accepts this, having intimate female friends of his own though he isn't ready for full-on girlfriends yet. We recognise and accept that we can lead more fulfilled lives if don't try to restrict each-other. And I now have two wonderful men in my life who I am devoted to and who are devoted to me.

I will say that it's challenging and certain compromises have to be made, for example important dates and event clashes can need a lot of diplomacy, but the security of intimacy, honesty, and trust cannot be rivalled. No need for lies or secret affairs… I can love and be loved without lying to others or to myself.

My boys are happy with the arrangement – I live with Husband and visit S.O. regularly. He has been deeply hurt in the past and never wants the commitment of a wife or live-in girlfriend again, so the “part-time” arrangement suits him fine.

Angel_Ice / Michelle: I sympathise with your pain, but you did the right thing in leaving. Lies and deceit have no place in true Poly relationships (or in any relationship). After all, what's the need? If you've agreed that more than one partner is ok, there's no need to lie to one or both about where you're going of an evening. I wish you happiness – tears dry.

Sorry for the ramble…
C