Things aren’t going to great here. Ashley’s parents have told her they don’t support our relationship. They’ve threatened to take away her internet access, long distance and not allow her to come here. Basically attempting to end our relationship. They told her to break up with me because “it’s not a real relationship”, “it’s all just a fantasy” and things like that. We’re both really upset, as you can imagine.
We’re looking at our options now, and checking out what would be necessary for Ashley to move here at the end of the summer. It’s going to be very difficult no matter what happens. We both love each other very much, though, and will do whatever we can to make this work. The sky is certainly grey right about now though.
Let me tell you, borders suck. That one imaginary line causes more pain than you’d believe. If I lived just 500 miles away in Maine it’d be fine, there’d be no trouble for Ashley to move on up and get a job. As it is we’ll have to fill out a bunch of papers and not be sure if she can move here at all. Let the frustration begin.
The UN ranks Canada as the best place in the world to live for the many obvious reasons, but that also makes immigration more difficult (though less difficult than to the US and many other countries). I’ll be praying, wishing and hoping that it will all work out though.
Above all else, the holy mantra of “Let nothing in your life come before Love” must remain tattooed in diamond-ink upon my soul. Ignorance and lack of compassion must not inhibit those uninfected by them. One must dance around the swords until one has a shield.
The unimportant details from today: I worked, I came home, and I ate.
I did get an e-mail from my inspired disciple, and it was nice to know that she is having a good time in New York.
In my working time I plot and plan for the future. The means to change the world are just puzzle pieces and I’m finding them everywhere. The obstacles standing in all our paths to happiness will fade one by one as we embrace the good. Days and years will fall like dead leaves, and a billion buds of compassion will give new life.
As I said to my high school friend, Cassandra, last night, while advising her on some school choices, “It is never a mistake to try to make yourself happy.” I think that needs to apply to us all. When we don’t allow ourselves to enter paths we will not be happy traveling, we create a more fulfilling world for us and for others.
And she did reply with, “I agree. You speak volumes of wisdom.” Perhaps I do?
My physical health has always been good, and it’s improved, I believe. I don’t get sick, I try to eat as well as possible, I get as much fresh air as I can, I’m active, and I’m clean.
Mentally I’m troubled, of course. Having the most sacred part of your life be under attack is always going to be traumatic. I’ll do everything I can to make this all work, though. My words and my love are not to be compromised. My loyalty is life-long and my faith forever. Countless tears will always be nothing when compared to a second of true happiness.
Words, and more words are forthcoming. Unending strings of letters, our bee-dance of communication. We can choose to make honey with our communication, or inflame with stings.
My keys defy your trigger. My voice screams against your bullets.
“The front line is everywhere!”
14 comments on “Keys”
i hope everything works out with you and ashley. good luck.
Thank you. I’m certainly hoping for the same thing.
Dear, you and Ashley hang in there. Love has a way of making things work out. I know it must be terribly frightening and frustrating right now, but if it is meant to be, nothing – not parents, not borders, nothing – will be able to stop it. I’ll keep positive thoughts for both of you. *hugs*
*hugs*
Thanks. Any sort of encouragement is a big help right now. It certainly is incredibly difficult, but I do have faith in Ashley and I, so I’m sure in time things will work out.
I’m really sorry they’re doing that… I hope that everything works out!
Thanks. I really hope so too!
Thanks. I really do think we’ll be able to deal with this and work around it.
I don’t always comment, but I always read, and I just wanted to say that I hope everything works out for you and Ashley in the end. I know that families get scared and insecure, especially when their child wants to take a dramatic step, but I get the feeling that you two will overcome their insecurity and rise above. You seem to have such a beautiful attitude, about your relationship and the world around you. It will stand you in good stead. 🙂
thanks. I’m sure everything will work out in time.
ick..that sounds awful *huggies*
i’m sorry…hopefully everything will work out soon though…
<3
*hugs*
thanks, I really hope it will work out
*cries for both of you*
Apollo, you have been there for me in so many times of need… I am hoping my words can be of some help now…
Ashley and you will make it. You know it, I know it, and most of the people reading this probably know it as well. Her parents are trying to protect her, and are also afraid to let go of her. This is something most parents do. Most of them smarten up, and I’m sure hers will as well. If they don’t, then that’s something she’s going to have to really look at. It will be hard for her, because she may lose her parents… meaning children you will have will miss out on their grandparents… but if she should decide that, I know that you will be there for her and support her.
Either way, things are going to be rough. Have you talked to her parents at all? Maybe you could try talking to them and reassuring them… if all else fails, and this is a BIG THING… maybe when she comes down to visit, her mom should come with her. This will reassure her of how much you both are in love… because anyone looking at the two of you can see it. I know it will be a pain, but I have a feeling there are plenty of beautiful places you and ashley can go to be alone and get away from the watchful eye of mother hen for a little while.
I do know having her mom there would be an issue, but look at it this way, it will reassure her that you are a good guy. Anyone that talks to you for ten minutes knows that. And it would let her see that you two are serious and are in love. If at that point she still isn’t supportive, Ashley may have to make the decision to be on her own and leave on her own. I’m sure in time her parents will accept it, and maybe even be happy for the two of you.
In the meantime, if the decision on her parents behalf is to cut her off… tell her not to flip on them. Flipping out on them is only going to convince them more that she’s not mature enough to handle this decision. It’ll be so hard for the two of you, but maybe she can e-mail you on a library computer, or get a calling card of her own so that she’s not having to use their long distance.
My best advise? Talk to them yourself… and see if her mom will consider coming down with ashley. If that’s the only way you can get to see her, it would be worth it. If she just took off, she may not have a place to return to.
Just tell her to try to keep things cool at home and work out a solution with her parents… if they are being unreasonable, things are only gonna be made more stressful for both of you in they argue all the time.
She can’t lose her family… they are important, just like she can’t lose you. You two just have to be strong… for each other and all the little Apashleys to come!
If you need to talk, or bitch or anything, let me know… I’m here…
I hope I helped and didn’t make things worse… I have a habit of doing that accidentaly
Re: *cries for both of you*
Wow, that was such a nice responce. Thank you, my silly disciple.
It really made me feel better. Not only your words, but also just knowing that you care that much really helped.
I’ll be sure to tell Ashley to read it too.
I agree with just about everything you said. I’m sure we will get through all of this, but it will definitely be difficult.
Ashley’s mother did ask to come along with Ashley when she visits, but Ashley felt really uncomfortable about that, and it would be hard to find her a place to stay closer than Truro.
I have talked to her mother before, and I’d certainly be willing to talk to her again if it would help. Her parents seemed really understanding before, but I think the fact that Ashley didn’t get great marks at college has lead them to believe it’s because of our relationship and not the other factors, such as Ashley being uncomfortable where she was living.
We’ll work on everything and try to find a good solution.
Thanks so much for such a lengthy response. You are truly a great friend.
Re: *cries for both of you*
Thanks in return for your response… I wasn’t sure if I was helping or not… I ramble sometimes…
I know that you two will make it through all of this…
*hugs for both of you*